How do fix my family problems?
Posted: February 10th, 2011 | Author: Mitch | Filed under: Camp Sites | Tags: christmas, conflict, cousins, excuse, grandparents, money, old run, parents, some of my best friends, Thanksgiving | 2 Comments »my parents lend-ed money (and a lot too!) to my cousins family so they could start up an old run down campground. But then she started to loose it and it just went all down hill from there. she didn’t pay us back when she had the money and she still owns the campground and thinks it will comeback. But we are very confident it will not. now this conflict has effected the whole side of that family. My grandparents understand and are siding with us but my other aunt and her family (these cousins are some of my best friends!!!) have sided with them. My family ended-up going to grandmas like we do every thanks giving but this year we were the only ones there. I am so sad and discouraged about this and so worried what will happen on Christmas! :,-( My cousins that own the campground go to my school and are in the same grade and we are very close ( or were anyway) our mother are both at each others throats though! they took off on thanksgiving so they had an excuse not to come! they went to New York even though they still don’t have enough money to pay us back. I JUST DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO AND I BOUGHT ALL OF MY COUSINS CHRISTMAS PRESENTS HOPING TO PERSUADE THEM TO COME FOR CHRISTMAS! I LOVE MY FAMILY SO MUCH AND DON’T WANT THEM TO LOOSE THEIR HOUSE OR MOVE AWAY BECAUSE OF ME! I JUST NEED ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO!
Unfortunately, this is the fight for all of the adults in your family, and it doesn’t seem like they care about how any of the kids feel. I’m sure your cousins miss you too, but it’s possible your cousin’s family told them not to even talk to you..if they do then they might get in serious trouble or something. It’s possible they could’ve been brainwashed into thinking the’yre always going to be better than you just because they own a dead campground. I’m not really sure. However, this could get worse before it gets better. I’m seeing your side of the family wanting to take this to court, and then what? It could get MUCH uglier than it is now.
Maybe one day in school you should pull your cousins aside and ask why they are angry with you. You didn’t do anything wrong, or maybe your cousins want to do the same thing with you. If they really don’t want to talk to you, then they’re acting just as badly as that side of the family. You’ll never know if you aren’t the one that does speak up first. Maybe they will talk to you…what have you got to lose? The relationship you may no longer have with them? Also I think the adults should just settle this in a calm matter and leave you kids out of it. If they don’t realize that, then they’re being cold-hearted and plain selfish. I hope this helps and I hope things get better in time
No easy way to say this, but unless your family gets their money back, your cousins are more or less out of the picture. Funny how money can f*** things up so badly.